Apr 13, 2026
Why We Memory Check Our Lives - with Psychotherapist Jess Hayes
Memory checking feels like problem-solving. It's not.
If you've ever caught yourself rewinding a past conversation, searching it for proof that you said the wrong thing or that something is fundamentally wrong with you, that's memory checking. And it's one of the most exhausting OCD compulsions no one talks about enough.
Here's the hard truth: your memory isn't a courtroom. It's not reliable, it's not objective, and the more you review it, the worse you feel. Not better.
Jess Hayes explains why this happens and what to do instead.
(Hint: the past isn't where the answer is.)
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